You’ve learned about your legal rights and responsibilities and about communication and negotiation with the goal of resolving your separation. The most effective, fastest, cheapest, and collaborative resolution is to create a separation agreement. This is a written agreement between you and your former spouse detailing how you will move forward. If you are a parent, you should make a parenting plan. Parenting Plans set out how you are to share the responsibilities of parenting and what your rights as a parent are. Parenting Plans can provide more detail than Separation Agreements, and are often created first. It’s also very common to simply copy the terms of the parenting plan into the separation agreement once you have agreed on a separation agreement. Let’s take a closer look at these two types of agreements.
A parenting plan is a document that describes parenting arrangements and explains the decisions made about caring for the children. It is helpful to make a parenting plan to prepare for and minimize future conflict.
There are no specific laws about constructing parenting plans or what should and shouldn't be in them. Therefore, you and the other parent can come up with as creative a plan as you would like so long as you keep the child’s best interests in mind.
A parenting plan may describe:
To get a better understanding of what could be included in a parenting plan take a look at the Decisions about Parenting Worksheet you filled out in Chapter 2.
Parenting plans can stand on their own as a separate document or can be included in separation agreements.
When you’re ready to make a parenting plan, use the Parenting Plan Worksheet provided in the next section.